they ain't been through the things that you put me through and

they ain't seen all the things that I seen in you and

they ain't never cried the tears you made me cry

so they can't be the judge because

they don't know what I know

they never seen that part of you

they know the lies I know the truth

they never seen our scars before so

they think our love is beautiful

...

everything is always beautiful when you're looking through

- take them off -

Love does not have to hurt but it often seems to. When you listen to the music of love you will hear it telling stories about the pain and sorrow of unfulfilled love. Someone left, someone cheated, or someone died and left someone sad and alone. Love is such a strong positive emotion that it is inevitable that there will be some pain associated with it at some time. This is Nature's law of opposites. For every force there is an equal and opposite force to hold it in balance. As much as our love would soar as a bird on the air, there is gravity to bring it back to earth ... sometimes falling but usually gliding.

Passion, is a bird on wing in the thin air of the highest sky without a net. Passion is blissful delight. It's exciting, thrilling, and we feel so alive. You remember your love and you always will while those that follow diminish in the distance and fade in the past.

Our love and passion unlock so many feelings that it's hard to describe them all: euphoria, peace, tenderness, tingling, jealousies, and complete connection are but a few. Passion is a sweet anesthesia that blinds us to anything that might come between us. Love, in the passion stage, holds a power for that moment that can overcome everything.

When judgment is replaced with passion, people tend to make different decisions than they otherwise would. You dated and maybe even married that person even though you sensed that there were major differences between you. You somehow thought that they weren't important or that they would change. Then you realized, when the passion wore off as it always does, that maybe things weren't as great as you thought. That realization and the following break-up were hard. It hurt. It seems as though love always hurts.

The truth, however, is that love does not hurt but it is the falling out of love or not having love that really hurts. And the higher you are, such as in the heights of passion or the tower of a long-term love, the harder the fall. A break-up, divorce, death, or abandonment are some of the most painful experiences of life because we miss our love so much.

We all need two things in life:

1) To not be alone or feel alone

2) To be appreciated and loved for whom we are.

Love brings us together and loneliness reminds us that we are missing something in life. You may not even understand it but the forces are there. We seek fulfillment in the love of others when we often need to love ourselves just as much.

But nothing of what I just said is really the hurt that I am feeling from her.

"Pleasing is sometimes what you do out of love.  Sometimes depending on the situation, you take action so that either side will be closest to balance.

In marriage, you must also think of the best interest of your husband and not always you, what you want, what you need, and only you.  Any woman who thinks this way is usually the first to be divorced.  I do not think any man (Hmong) would want to come home to a woman who's always stepping on him all the time, trying to override his every decision and telling him what to do and not to do.

I know that majority of Hmong men prefer a Hmong woman who will listen and follow him instead of him following her.  You may want a Hmong woman who is responsible and can make decision on her own ... but that is only if she thinks of her husband as her best interest and not of her.

When a Hmong woman can think like this, it's usually when her husband loves her the most."

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn,

But that's alright because I like the way it hurts.

Just gonna stand there and hear me cry,

But that's alright because I love the way you lie.

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